Fathers and Sons

I almost skipped this talk because I'm not a father and I don't' have any sons. But I read it. It's exactly what I'd want a member of the 12 to say to my teenage son if I had one, and what I'd what the same member of the 12 to say to my husband.

My highlights:

• "When you put your trust in your dad [or any person, I'd add], he will feel the responsibility of that trust and try harder than ever to understand and help."
• "First, fathers, listen to your sons—really listen to them. Ask the right kind of questions, and listen to what your sons have to say each time you have a few minutes together. You need to know—not to guess but to know—what is going on in your son’s life. Don’t assume that you know how he feels just because you were young once." I think these same principles apply to mothers and their interactions with their children.
• "A one-on-one relationship should be a routine part of your stewardship with your sons [and I would add daughters]. Every father needs at least one focused, quality conversation with his sons every month during which they talk about specific things such as school, friends, feelings, video games, text messaging, worthiness, faith, and testimony. Where or when this happens isn’t nearly as important as the fact that it happens. " I don't think we can wait until our children are 12 to start this kind of relationship. 1:1 time needs to begin early.
• "Remember, conversation where you do 90 percent of the talking is not a conversation." Funny, that's what happens most of the time at my house. No one around here talks very much. It think it causes problems.
• "Use the word “feel” as often as you comfortably can in your discussions with your sons." Great advice. I think I'll try it.

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